Moving In, Moving On, and Moving Out: Your College Student in Transition

November 17, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

College is a time of transition. There is much discussion about the student’s transition to freshman year and to college in general. But in many ways, college is a time of continual transition. Your student moves into college, into and out of dorms and apartments, into (and sometimes out of) majors, and move on up the ladder of college class rank. For some students the transition includes moving on to different colleges or to alternative paths. Finally, students begin the transition out of college and into career.

Recognizing that this is a time of continual transition and change will help you support and encourage your student as he navigates his way through college. We’ve included here some information about some of the transitions your student – and you – may face.

Helping Your Student Stay on Track to Graduate in Four Years

March 18, 2017November 14, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

In our last post, we suggested that one question that your student should ask every semester is ”Am I on track to graduate in four years?” If your student is not definitively able to answer this question for himself, he should find someone who can help him find the information that he needs to be able to evaluate whether he is on track. As a college parent, it is important that you encourage your student to ask the question and find the answer, but it is not your job to answer the question. With your encouragement, or perhaps insistence, your student needs to take ownership of his college career.

Asking the question, ”Am I on track . . .” at least once each semester will help your student know how he is progressing. He’ll need to consider his progress in accomplishing required credits, completing all college requirements, completing requirements for his major, maintaining a satisfactory GPA, and completing any additional curricular or extracurricular college requirements.

The One Question Your College Student Should Ask Every Semester

December 7, 2021November 10, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

Good college students recognize that asking questions — the right questions — is an important part of the learning process. Sometimes asking just the right question, at just the right time, of just the right person, can make the difference between success and failure. If your college student is interested in graduating from college in four years, there is an important question that he should be asking at least once every semester: ”Am I on track to graduate in four years?”

Nationally, only 37% of college students graduate in four years. The trend is for the majority of students to take at least five years to complete their degree. Colleges now calculate their graduation rates based on the number of students who complete their degree in six years. So the question of being on track is an important one.

For many students, a five-year or six-year plan may make sense. Some students know at the time that they enter college that they will need longer to complete their degree. They may need a reduced course load, they may have full time or part time jobs or family responsibilities, they may have significant outside or extracurricular activities that take a priority. But for those students who enter college intending and hoping to finish in four years, taking ownership of their progress is essential.

A Five Step Plan to Help Your College Student to Salvage a Poor Semester

November 26, 2021November 7, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

As many college students pass the mid-point in their semester, they begin to realize that the final results this term may not be what they had hoped for. This is a point in the term when some students give up. They may decide to withdraw from a class or drop out of college entirely; or they may simply drift through the rest of the term and wait for the inevitable failure or dismissal. Some students, however, wonder whether they can salvage something from the term to build on later.

If your student is struggling at this point, and is willing to share their situation with you, you want to be able to help them value their mistakes and think about what to do — both immediately and more long term.

First, it will be important that your student decide whether or not they want to salvage anything. Your student may not, and that may prompt a different conversation. But if they want to try, you may need to help them think about whether it is possible and if so, what to do. Many students in this situation feel that they have lost control of what is happening in their lives. The following plan may help them begin to take control once again.

Time for Your College Student to Take Stock, Look Back, and Move Forward — 31 Helpful Posts for November

March 17, 2017November 3, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

As November arrives and we enter the season of holidays, your college student is well past the mid-point of the semester. If your student was a new, first-year student this fall, she is probably feeling that she is past the transition period. If your student is not a new college student, the mid-point of another semester is one more step closer to graduation.

Now that the end of the semester may be in sight, the hard work of the semester also settles heavily on students’ shoulders. Students may also be facing the consequences of some of the choices that they made earlier in the semester, and may need to make some decisions now about the future. This is a good time to take stock, look back, and move forward.

When Your College Student Has a Problem with a Professor

September 21, 2021October 31, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

Hopefully, your college student has a good working relationship with their class professors. The relationship between a college student and their professors, in addition to the formal teaching done in the classroom, is often an important mentoring opportunity. Of course, having a good relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that each professor will be on your student’s list of favorite people, but hopefully, they have at least found how to make each course work.

But what does your student do if things go wrong with their professor? What if they have a serious problem that seems to be getting in the way of success in a course? What do they do then? Perhaps they pick up the phone and call home. This would be a good time to provide that important listening ear, and perhaps some sympathy, but it is definitely not the time for you to pick up the phone and call anyone at school. This is an important time to help your student think through the situation, consider alternatives, and create a plan of action.

How to Get the Most From the New College Net Cost Calculators

March 15, 2017October 29, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

College parents’ task of estimating and preparing for the cost of college may just have become more realistic. As of October 29, 2011, all colleges receiving federal aid will be required to provide a Net Cost Calculator on their college websites. The new net-price calculators are intended to help future college students and their parents have a better sense of the cost of attending a particular college for a particular student.

According to the College Board, the average cost for tuition, fees and living expenses at a four year private college was $38,590 last year. Grants, scholarships and aid lowered that costs to an average of $11,380 to $17,130 for most students. Obviously, college ”sticker price” may be dramatically different from the actual price. The new net price calculators are intended to help provide a clearer picture by making college financing more transparent and colleges more accountable.

What to Do When Your College Student Doesn’t Call

August 29, 2022October 19, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

We hear a lot these days about helicopter parents, and we hear a lot about the growing amount of communication between college parents and their college students. This growing communication takes many forms — and is generally two-way communication. Parents aren’t the only ones doing the calling. Parents and their college students are often encouraged to limit their communication to enable college students to separate, make transitions, and become independent.

But what if too much communication with your college student isn’t your problem? What if all communication with your college student feels one-way? You call, text, e-mail — and you get no response. Your student doesn’t pick up your calls or return messages or e-mails. You may be frustrated, worried, or just plain angry. It may help if you give some thought to why your student may not be communicating much, as well as what you can do, and shouldn’t do, to help increase the chances that your student will communicate more.

In our last post, we considered some of the reasons why your student may not be contacting you as much as you think that he should. In this post, we’ll look at some suggestions for improving the amount and quality of contact with your student.

What not to do when your student doesn’t call

You never hear from your college student — or at least it seems that way to you. You’re upset, worried, and possibly angry. You feel you need to take some action. There are a few things we’d suggest that you avoid as you consider what to do.

Understanding Why Your College Student Doesn’t Call

September 26, 2023October 16, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

Nine Poor Decisions You Hope Your College Student Will Avoid

October 13, 2019October 10, 2011 by Vicki Nelson

College is a time of learning — both in and outside of the classroom. College students will make mistakes and most will learn from those mistakes. Wise students and their parents recognize that mistakes are part of the learning curve, and they respect and tolerate those mistakes. As college parents, however, we hope that our students will not make mistakes that will have a negative impact on their college career.

As a parent, you can anticipate and watch for these nine potential decisions and talk to your student about their choices. Remember, however, that although you may alert your student to these pitfalls, they will ultimately need to make their own decisions — and live with the consequences — but that they will learn from experience.